Yesterday was my hardest day, attachment wise. I was spoiled with Yi Lin the night before and thought maybe she was bonding with me. That was a big NO. After I posted my last blog, I returned to the room to find her a daddy's girl and mama can't anywhere close to her. Jeremy did not want me to go to the supermarket alone, so we planned for him to leave while Yilin was using the bathroom and then I would watch a movie with her. Well, it didn't go over well to say the least. He didn't even make it in the elevator before Yilin had cried so hard that she puked all over me :-( That was not good because we had just got her to take her antibiotic. So we all ended up going to the market and because we were pushed for time, I couldn't even change clothes. I ended up having a meltdown in the supermarket and again at the hotel when we got back. I was so emotional! I hate that about me. I finally got a much needed shower and felt a bit better. Remember we still had not heard her say a word and I was beginning to think she couldn't speak.
When we arrived at Civil Affairs, the head nanny comes in and Yi Lin smiles the biggest smile ever! What? She smiles? Master Nanny says something to her and she speaks!!!!! What? You mean she speaks! She said Baba and Gugu (brothers) and after some encouragement from the nanny, she softly said, mama. Oh the joy that filled my heart. Everything is going to be ok I told myself, I knew it would be. She was so happy. The whole time we were there and even when the nanny said goodbye to her for the last time, she looked sad, but just held Jeremy's hand. She was so brave. When we got back to the hotel, she was laughing and smiling. She is fine as long as I am 5 feet away.
She let me give her a bath and we played with the bath toys together.....wonderful time for me. I rubbed her dry skin down with baby lotion and gave her a back rub after her pj's were on. But she wouldn't let me rock her to sleep, so daddy stepped in. He is amazing with her! If you could only see the pure joy on Jeremy's face. I slept by her crib at Jeremy's request and she awoke crying at 1am. She had coughed so much she was gagging. I rushed her to the potty thinking she would thow up again, but she didn't. She wasn't happy that I was the only one to care for her. She wimpered around for about an hour and finally laid in her bed and was out again. She was content with me when woke at 5:30am but that of course was out the window when you know who came in 1 hour later. I can't wait til bath time tonight :-)
We had a wonderful day today. We went to the notary and go her passport and then to the People's Park. Wonderful experience! Chengdu is a beautiful place after all. We walked around for several hours and also purchased tickets to an opera show for tomorrow night. I will tape it for Yi Lin to have. It is supose to be a great show.
The boys are doing school work now. We have the rest of the day off. Jeremy is putting YiLin down for her first nap. We put her pj's on so she will know it is time to sleep. I am amazed at Jeremy. WOW what a transformation in him so far. I am so proud of him. He is so gentle and affectionate with her. The boys have noticed this too.....I am giving them extra affection so they won't get jealous.....by the way, I have nothing else to do....if you get my drift.
Our guide, Lily, is a blessing. She is so kind and trys to please us. She is wonderful with YiLin but YiLin doesn't really like her either so I don't feel so bad. For anyone else reading this that is due to go to Chengdu, I highly recommend her.
Just a some random notes about YiLin.....
She is a size 3 and not a 4.
I still don't know what size shoe she is, but we did buy some cute dress shoes for her yesterday.
She is feeling a bit safer with us now. She doesn't cling to all her little items so much.
Jeremy noticed that when she is nervous or scared, she turns the flashlight on.
But when she is calm, she has it off and has even left it in her purse all day without bringing it out.
She loves rice....of course.
Doesn't seem to like eggs...oh no..or pizza....I guess we will have rice and pizza on pizza night.
I brushed her teeth this morning, and her top front teeth are really messed up. One is even broken in half.
Her palate is still open a bit with a small hole.
She loves toys that play music.
She chose a Sponge Bob balloon at the park over a bunch of girly ones.....
She is very tickleish...I think I misspelled that, sorry.
She snores.
She is a very sweet little girl.
She hasn't asked for anything yet and is alittle shy when we offer her something.
We go to the Panda Base tomorrow and we can't wait. Thanks those of you that have posted or emailed comments to us. I sat and cried (of course) when I read them all earlier.....It means alot to me. The boys say hello to all their friends and cousins. They have bought a few things for you.
Continue the prayers! YiLin is taking the medicine for daddy, even though it is gritty and not so good. She obeys very well, except when you want her to say please or thank you. We are working on that slowly.
We love you all...
I love her smile!!! It will get better, I promise!! She's only withdrawing from you and clinging to daddy because she is grieving .. probably for the nanny...I went through the same thing with Mollie..It does look like Jeremy is deifinitely enjoying her being a "daddy's girl":) And it looks like she is doing so well with the boys!! I'm so happy for you all and I cry everytime I read the blog!! Please know that we are all praying for you here...praying for strength for you, and praying for healing for Yi Lin..that she gets better before the long flight home!!You are doing great Mary...(and Jeremy) Hang in there, it only gets better!! :)
ReplyDeleteRhonda wanted me to tell you that she has been reading your blogs and she has cried right with you!
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she wanted me to tell you all that they love you and they are praying for you.
I prayed to see a picture of her smiling with you all!! I'm so glad to hear that it's goig better. Mary you are doing wonderful! You just keep hanging in there and like you said it's going to be ok. I can not believe how big Jeremy's smiles are! I knew she would melt him! I just knew it! Just like everyone else has said I cry everytime I read your posts. I will have your mom come over again this afternoon to read. She will be happy to see smiles too. Taylor says to tell you that she loves you and is praying for all of you. We love you all. Praying hard for you, and thinking about you alot.
ReplyDeleteMary, thank you so much for the pictures and post. Tori and I both read it. Be strong and of good courage girl! God is at work and your time will come! So many people are praying for you and your new extended family! Even though there are hurts, the joy will outweigh it all in His time. Believe me, I know how you feel! I thought Tori didn't love me or even want to be around me at first. It is just a defense mechanism and who knows what is going on in her little head. God can only bless the abundance of love and patience that you have for this little one! I love you and I can't wait to meet her!
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Can you say, "Been there done that!" (without the puking:)I know how you feel,but hang in there. She will be hanging all over you before you know it. I love the family picture! Looks like she has always been with you. She just blends right in!!! God is doing His good works!!! We love you!!!
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